Kate Motaung

Codependency is a concern that affects relationships of all sorts, whether romantic relationships, parent-child relationships, siblings, friends, or colleagues. Codependency distorts relationships by introducing unhealthy patterns of behavior, often leading to the deterioration of both the codependent relationship and the overall well-being of the individuals in the relationship. Identifying codependent behaviors in your relationships can help you begin to find healing from unhealthy relationship dynamics. Breaking Down Codependency Our relationships are typically a network of interdependent connections that allow [...]

“Just breathe, yes that’s it; slowly in and out.” If you’re someone who struggles with anxiety, chances are you’ve heard this advice more times than you can count. Well-meaning friends, family, or even strangers often suggest that breathing is the magic solution to calming down in the middle of a panic attack or stressful situation. But let’s be real, when you’re in the thick of anxiety, the idea of just breathing often seems way too simple, if not downright [...]

Anxiety is something we all have to deal with occasionally, but for some, it is a constant experience. Anxiety can be complex, irrational, and sometimes undetectable. However, the people who must deal with anxiety daily will feel the effects of it, whether they know where it comes from or not. Highly anxious people tend to develop similar habits over time. These might serve as indicators or red flags for the presence of anxiety in their lives. Common Habits of [...]

Many people experience anxiety without knowing where it comes from. While anxiety can be linked to external events or part of a disorder, more often than not, anxiety is connected to the way we see the world and the beliefs we carry. It is possible to gain control over certain types of anxiety. It might require that we face past experiences and rewire our limiting beliefs that are connected to unresolved trauma. In this article, we’ll consider some trauma-informed [...]

When you think about relationships, do those thoughts come with warm and welcoming feelings, or are you left feeling on edge? People don’t experience relationships the same way, and how you interact with others and form relationships is influenced by your earliest interactions with others. Depending on what those interactions were like then, you may have trouble forming healthy relationships with people now. How a person relates to others and forms connections is called an attachment style. An anxious-avoidant [...]

Have you ever had an experience so visceral that to this day it feels like that moment never quite left you? It could be the first time you saw the ocean, the time you fell from a tree, a time when you saw a project come together and felt alive, or perhaps when you experienced a tragic loss. Our bodies and our minds remember the things that happen to us; they leave a mark on us, even if it’s [...]

For some, getting married is a key life goal that marks the passage into full-on adulting. It’s a huge decision because you’re committing to do life with one person, and making extravagant promises before your friends and family about what you will and will not do in your life together. A lot of time and energy, not to mention expense, is spent preparing for the wedding day, but how much time do couples spend preparing for their marriage? Premarital [...]

AnxietyAs one of the most common mental health illnesses, Mental Health America states that more than 8% of American adults (more than 21 million) are affected by major depression and an alarming 15% of youth aged 12-17. The number of people who struggle with some sort of depressive disorder is likely far higher, and it is said that only about a third of people who suffer seek help for depression. Depression and Christianity have in some circles earned a [...]

While it may take two to conceive a baby, it often takes a village to raise a child. This African proverb has long been quoted to advise and encourage parents and people around the value of being interdependent. We all need community and viable support systems to do anything meaningful with God and for societal good. This quote’s inherent wisdom reminds us that our children, one of our prized and precious resources, are of such value that we steward [...]

Friendship is one of many good gifts that God gives us. In the wisdom literature of the Bible, there are several sayings relating to friendship such as, “A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother” (Proverbs 18:24, NIV). We see many examples of friendship throughout the Bible and in history; some of these are great, like David and Jonathan in 1 Samuel of the Old Testament, or [...]

Choosing to share the rest of your life with a person has a profound impact on the rest of your life. When a person gets married, they don’t know exactly what will come their way because life can be unpredictable. Ending a marriage is a big decision, and it can be one of the most painful decisions a person makes in their life. This pain is magnified when divorce and children mix. Dealing With Divorce as an Adult Getting [...]

The holidays, like grief, are a mixed bag of unpredictable events and the emotions that grow from them. Put dealing with grief and important holidays like Christmas together and you have the recipe for a tumultuous and volatile storm of emotions. Throw in the pressure of expectations, family dynamics, financial obligations, dreary weather, and even more and you have a season that can be anything but merry and bright. McKinney Christian Counseling offers compassionate support to help you navigate [...]