Kate Motaung

Life can be an unpredictable and winding path, taking you places you never thought you’d be. No one who sets off to get married does so thinking they want to get divorced, even if they know it’s a possibility. This could be doubly so for a believer who holds to their faith in Jesus and is walking in the biblical understanding and purpose of marriage. If this is you, how then do you cope in such circumstances? The Challenges [...]

Many people with ADHD are seen to be lazy or disinterested in their studies, tasks at work, friendships, and even in their romantic relationships. This is because most of those with ADHD are procrastinators, frequently leaving things unfinished and appointments unattended. While it might be easy for others to judge them, the truth is that their tendency to procrastinate is far more complex than it would seem. The tendency to procrastinate in people with ADHD is often linked to an [...]

Chances are that you’ve done this or are doing it right now: scrolling. You’re just checking your feed, right? No big deal. But before long, you begin to feel it. That little ache in your chest, or the pit of your stomach, and the faint whisper in your ear that says that you’re not as attractive or accomplished as those images on the tiny screen. You’re certainly not thin enough after that hearty breakfast. You’re obviously not strong enough because you [...]

Our bodies are designed and function in an amazing way. They help us to adapt to a wide range of situations and experiences, and we can operate even under hostile conditions. This means that we are quite resilient and can cope with enormous pressures. However, being resilient is not the same thing as being invincible. Our bodies and minds do take strain and can be overwhelmed in their ability to cope well. Many life circumstances can affect a person’s well-being, [...]

Is trauma just a trendy word to describe human experiences today? Many people use the word “trauma,” but what is trauma, and how do you know if you have unhealed trauma in your life? The National Survey of Children’s Health found that almost 50% of children in the US have had at least one significant traumatic experience (Perry & Winfrey, 2021) According to the World Health Organization (2024), around 70% of people globally will experience a potentially traumatic event throughout [...]

How do you know if you’re doing too much of a thing? One possibility is in what the apostle wrote: “‘I have the right to do anything,’ you say – but not everything is beneficial. ‘I have the right to do anything’ – but I will not be mastered by anything.” (1 Corinthians 6:12-13, NIV). Not everything we can do is beneficial to us, and even when we have the right to do something, when that thing becomes our master [...]

Trauma responses that are a little outside of the “norm” often get made fun of or dismissed. What might feel silly to someone else might be your body remembering how it had to survive in a tense or dangerous situation. People might brush off your unusual actions with a roll of their eyes or even a chuckle, but those quirky little things you do might be more than just unique personality traits. They might be signs that you have unresolved [...]

Our minds tend to wander and be full of thoughts that aren’t necessarily related to what is happening at the moment. Mindfulness is the practice of quieting your mind by gently bringing your awareness back to the present and using your senses to turn your attention away from stressful, anxious, negative thoughts to what is real right now, accepting it without judging it as being good or bad. Yes, my soul, find rest in God; my hope comes from [...]

There’s a saying that familiarity breeds contempt. When you think you know something well, it can give you the confidence to not pay as close attention as you would under normal circumstances. Experience nurtures skill, but if you’re not careful, it can also nurture complacency. When it comes to a mental health challenge like depression, our familiarity with it can become a hindrance and not a help. Depression is most often considered to be a deep and unrelenting sadness. While [...]

Death is a part of life. Yet, some people become so obsessed with death that they forget to live their lives. People become obsessed with how they’re going to die, how painful it’s going to be, etc. Death appears to be final, and people recognize that because death is brutal and causes people such pain and sorrow, they can’t help but fear it. 5 Reasons Not to Fear Death But for the Christian, there’s no reason to fear death. [...]

When you encounter verses such as Psalm 127:3, you might feel a mixture of emotions. The verse reads, “Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from him” (Psalm 127:3, NIV). One thing a parent might feel is a deep sense of responsibility for their children, perhaps accompanied by gratitude to the Lord for the gift of a child. These emotions can be empowering, but they can also make parents feel overwhelmed due to their gravity. If [...]

Grief is a unique, nonlinear, unpredictable, off-putting emotion that can knock your seemingly steady world right off its axis. Not only is the process of dealing with grief different for each person, but each situation is unique as well, which means that your grief journey will be distinct to you. The idea that what you are going through is uncharted territory can add anxiety to an already tumultuous period of your life. Not having a map or a forecast [...]