Kate Motaung

About Kate Motaung

Kate Motaung is the Senior Writer, Editor, and Content Manager for a multi-state company. She is the author of several books including Letters to Grief, 101 Prayers for Comfort in Difficult Times, and A Place to Land: A Story of Longing and Belonging. Kate is also the host of Five Minute Friday, an online writing community that equips and encourages Christian writers, and the owner of Refine Services, a company that offers editing services. She and her South African husband have three young adult children and currently live in West Michigan. Find Kate’s books at katemotaung.com/books.

What to Do When You Feel Depressed

By |2024-09-27T09:53:57+00:00January 19th, 2023|Depression, Featured, Individual Counseling|

Everybody has bad days where they are worn out, agitated, and depressed. Although it’s common to experience grief in response to unpleasant life events, loss, or changes, these feelings can occasionally persist for a while if unresolved and make it challenging for you to get through each day. You can’t just will yourself to “snap out of it” when you’re depressed. What distinguishes sadness from being depressed? Many stressful and traumatic occurrences might bring you down, whether you’ve lost a loved one, moved to a new location, or missed a career change. The difference between sorrow and depression is that the former normally passes quickly, but the latter is a mood disorder that can occur suddenly and linger for two weeks or longer. Your life is affected by depression in practically every way; it interferes with your thoughts, feelings, and routine tasks like sleeping, working, and socializing. Typical signs of depression include: feelings of emptiness difficulty concentrating, low energy, trouble sleeping, or excessive sleep, alterations in weight or appetite a sense of helplessness a decline in interest in hobbies or activities easy irritation or restlessness aches and pains that don’t have a clear physical origin suicidal or death-related ideas These signs and symptoms must be present for at least two weeks, approximately twenty-four hours a day, to be considered depressive. Why is overcoming depression so challenging? Depression saps your motivation, hope, and vitality, making it challenging to perform the actions that will improve your mood. Sometimes it might be difficult or stressful to even think about doing the things you should do to feel better, like exercising or hanging out with friends. The dilemma of depression recovery is as follows: The most difficult things to undertake are also the things that help the most. However, there is a significant [...]

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How to Find Hope and Develop a Lifestyle of Gratitude in Uncertain Times

By |2024-09-27T09:55:02+00:00January 7th, 2023|Featured, Individual Counseling, Personal Development, Spiritual Development|

Are you struggling to know how to find hope in a difficult situation? Consider these scenarios: Nancy is a twenty-something who grew up in a home where her parents always struggled. Their power and gas were cut off frequently, sometimes dinners consisted of stale bread and a dollop of off-brand peanut butter, and she was often made fun of for her raggedy clothes and stained shoes. Tom is a career firefighter who commits his life and safety to the well-being of others. He comforts rape victims, runs into burning buildings, responds to life-changing incidents, and sees people take their last breath as a “normal” day at the office. Tanya is a social worker who does home visits for children in foster care and is part of the process of removing children from harmful and heartbreaking home situations. She has seen children dropped off and discarded like they are garbage (even from wealthy homes), which has resulted in her constantly looking over her shoulder and wondering if people are who they say they are. Dan is a war veteran who served overseas on many tours. He saved many, many lives and served with every inch of his heart. While he was serving his country, his wife asked for a divorce via text, and when he returned, their home was empty, and she avoided contact with him. He was left feeling hopeless and alone and wondering what he could have done to prevent it. Perhaps you have dealt with a heartbreaking situation like one of the above scenarios and are currently wondering how to find hope amidst turmoil. Perhaps you are trying to count your blessings but are having trouble pointing them out. When people struggle, they often wonder where God is. When people struggle, people often doubt (or want to [...]

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Created, Chosen, and Called: Self Esteem and Your Path to Purpose

By |2024-09-27T09:53:36+00:00December 23rd, 2022|Featured, Individual Counseling, Personal Development, Spiritual Development|

Ecclesiastes informs us that God has set eternity in the heart of humanity (Ecclesiastes 3:11). For all of our quests for understanding, significance, and self-esteem beyond the routines of daily life, we will never unravel it apart from the Everlasting Father. Yet, God reserves some eternal mysteries for Himself such that what we seek can only be found in our Creator. There is a certain fulfillment that He reveals as we delve deeper into the unique purpose He’s assigned to us. He is the Beginning and End, who created, chose, and called us for Himself. (Revelation 1:8) It may present no alarm to us that the same enemy who sought to sabotage Adam and Eve opposes us. He persuaded them that they lacked what they had already possessed, causing them to view themselves as less than what God had already settled. They didn’t need to consume fruit from a forbidden tree to be like God as the serpent suggested (Genesis 3:5). They already were, as God had created them in His Image and likeness (Genesis 1:26). Sin’s effects have continued to filter through humanity, infecting us with the same distorted view. We contend against demonic forces that pit themselves against our God-given identity (Ephesians 6:11). They have influenced our fallen world, releasing the enemy’s schemes to intercept our ability to see ourselves as God does. Although the war waged against our minds and emotions is not a flesh-and-blood fight, it is still very real.  God has equipped us with all that’s needed to stand against the devil’s wiles and experience the settled victory in Christ (Ephesians 6:12). By choosing to agree with and activate what His Word says about our true identity, we can esteem our path into purpose and partner with God to be and do greater than [...]

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Maintaining Commitment in Your Marriage

By |2024-09-27T09:53:44+00:00December 12th, 2022|Couples Counseling, Featured, Individual Counseling, Infidelity and Affairs, Marriage Counseling, Relationship Issues|

Do you believe that as time has gone on, your commitment to your partner has grown weaker? Do you want to change that trend? If so, it is helpful to consider the following questions: What does it entail to be faithful to your spouse? What obstacles could jeopardize this dedication? What can you do to make your commitment to your partner stronger? First, let’s look at some basics. What is commitment? What do you think commitment means in a marriage? Many would contend that it results from a sense of obligation. For instance, a couple might decide to stay together for the sake of their kids or out of a sense of obligation to God, the One who created marriage. Such motivations are undoubtedly admirable and will support a marriage during trying times. However, marriage partners must feel more than just a sense of duty toward one another to be content. Jehovah God intended for a marriage to make a couple deeply joyful and content. He wanted a man to rejoice in his wife (Ephesians 5:28, NIV) and he wanted a woman to feel as loved by her husband as he does by his own body. (Proverbs 5:18, NIV) A couple must develop trust to forge that kind of bond. Their ability to form a lifelong friendship is also crucial. A man and woman’s dedication to their marriage will increase as they work to gain each other’s trust and develop the closest of friendships. They will develop a bond that the Bible describes as being so strong that it will feel like “‘…the two will become one flesh.’” (Matthew 19:5, NIV) Therefore, commitment could be compared to the mortar holding together a sturdy house’s bricks. Sand, cement, and water are some of the ingredients used to make mortar. Similar [...]

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How to Control Anger Before It Controls You

By |2024-09-27T09:54:28+00:00July 6th, 2022|Anger Issues, Featured, Individual Counseling, Men’s Issues, Women’s Issues|

Everyone has felt anger at some point in their lives. Whether it was a mild annoyance or bubbling rage, anger is a normal human emotion. Getting angry is not always the issue, but anger can lead to problems in your social life, professional life, and relationship with God. For this reason, we must learn to control anger before it controls us. What is anger? The nature of anger According to Charles Spielberger, Ph.D. - a psychologist specializing in anger studies – anger is “an emotional state that varies in intensity from mild irritation to intense fury and rage.” Anger can be caused by external or internal events, and it could be directed at a person, an inanimate object, a memory, and so on. It is often accompanied by a spike in hormones like adrenaline and high blood pressure. The Expression of Anger Aggression is a natural expression of anger. Anger can be expressed with aggressive words and/or actions. Due to civil laws, societal norms, and overall common sense, there is a limit to who or what you can take your anger out on without ending up in jail or a hospital. Some businesses have even capitalized on these limitations by providing rooms with fragile objects for people to smash, rather than teaching them to control anger. The Bible prohibits getting angry and lashing out. You cannot always avoid the things that trigger your anger, but you can always control how you react to the things or people that provoke you. Chances are, if you have an anger management problem, you already know it. How to Control Anger Relaxation People with a hot temper do foolish things; wiser people remain calm. – Proverbs 14:17 The next time you feel angry, try the following to control your anger: Take slow, deep breaths, [...]

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